well being, looking for okay

So much of our well being day to day can depend on our family members;

if they're happy, we're happy.

Life can feel easy and relaxed when all is well.

But bring in some teenage angst,

and the mantra 'this too shall pass',

becomes just a bit harder to swallow!

You realize one day that happy, relaxed and just plain okay

has been lost along the way.

And it's place has been taken by

the worrier,

the negotiator,

the lets not leave this alone until it's sorted person,

the decider,

the explainer,

the are we going in the right direction now?

the I think this all depends on me to make this happen person,

and while we're at it,

how about sorting out x,y and z etc,

so we can all breathe out and just quietly move along in the direction we were going in,

(whichever that was!)

and then you realize that your doing that 'thing' again,

you know the thing where you try and get someone to change,

or at least in the way that you want them to,

and then it stops being about them and more about what you want,

and I'm sure I could remember what that was if only everything was nicely sorted!

and just lately this blog reader extraordinaire has become much more resident gardener,

and I swear it helps.

I go out and chop and tame the garden instead.

And if you could see this garden you would laugh and exclaim,

 that it is impossible to tame a wild garden like this really,

but I do try!

But I am sure that if you can become an okay teenager, 

that I can become an okay Mum,

actually I'm sure it works both ways

(there's a thought......!)

So I shall practise that,

just that,

being okay.

I shall do simple things,

here and there,

and just for a short while I shall just be okay.

It won't all depend me,

I will trust in his life and how it works itself out.

I shall be okay and even a few happy moments now and again,

and perhaps a few laughs and smiles and a bit of fun

might pop by.

It will be okay.

And I'm sure looking back it will become clear

 that this too did indeed pass 

and okay will rule again.

where do you find yourself okay?

is it in the simple things?

Heather

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